Russian Women Guide
SO, YOU'VE BEEN THINKING OF TAKING A ROMANCE TOUR TO RUSSIA OR LATIN AMERICA. WHAT ARE THE BASIC DIFFERENCES BETWEEN WOMEN FROM THESE TWO CULTURES?
There are basic differences and similarities. EU women typically come from smaller families. Many Russian/Ukrainian women have one or two children
and families with more than one or two children are quite rare. Their features are usually Anglo or Caucasian: blondes, brunettes, redheads with
fair skin, bright colorful eyes usually somewhere between sea green and sparkling, pale blue. Their bodies are thin and quite shapely. EU women
are typically very educated, taking advantage of state run universities that are either free or at very low cost for good students. Many EU women
are bilingual or trilingual, learning foreign languages from a very early age in school. I believe most EU women have a basic appreciation for religion
and would categorize themselves as Christian or Russian or Eastern Orthodox. They have probably attended only a few church services in their lifetime.
Latin American women often come from larger families with more than two children. Their features are an exotic blend of their indigenous, Caribbean,
and Spanish ancestors: shimmering black hair, golden to dark brown skin, and eyes that are dark and deep. Many will have access to state run universities
in the larger cities, but most outside the cities will not and so post secondary education is not as likely for Latin women, though they are also
quite intelligent. Their bodies are not as tall as their EU counterparts but are still curvy - much to the delight of the few men who travel to
Latin America to meet them for the first time. Many Latina women were raised with traditional Catholic values and place a high importance on church
and basic Christian principals.
I PLAN TO PARTICIPATE IN A ROMANCE TOUR AND AM WRITING TO SEVERAL LADIES I EXPECT TO MEET. ONE IS SUGGESTING WE MEET AT A MALL OR AN EXPENSIVE
RESTAURANT FOR A FIRST DATE. IS THIS TYPICAL AND ACCEPTABLE?
This could lead to an uncomfortable scene where you are asked to shell out money for a new pair of boots, a leather jacket or an expensive meal.
Yes, some women will hit you up right away. I have asked hundreds of foreign ladies what they would view as an acceptable first date experience
and the vast majority of them said they would be fine with a cup of coffee at a small cafe, or a walk in the city park. Conversation is most important,
not atmosphere, in order to determine if there is enough mutual interest to schedule a second date. Unlike dating in America where most guys expect
to unload upwards of $100 on dinner, most foreign women will be happy to get to know you over a glass of wine before anything more significant.
There's really no point in blowing a whole lot of dough on a girl you might not want a second date with.
WHAT CAN I DO TO HELP HER FEEL COMFORTABLE IN HER NEW HOME?
There are many things you can easily do to help your fiancee relax and adjust to her new home, but none more important than allowing her as much
room and time as she needs to feel she belongs here, in your country, and with you. Here are some good steps to take:
Be a friend to her child! Understand her child's needs as they relate to school and social behavior. Help her child find playmates. Visit with her
new school principal to prepare the staff for his/her specific needs as an ESL (English as a Second Language) student. Show your new fiancee right
away the good father you plan to be. Believe me, as her child goes, so shall you all go.
Help her communicate with her family and friends! If she's from the FSU buy or make her a Russian keyboard and down-load fonts and software (available
free in some places) that allow her to send and receive emails in her own language. Foreign television programs can be viewed over the internet
and are often available from cable or satellite dish services. Buy phone cards or calling plans that give you great rates for her country, enabling
her to call home frequently. Look for forums on the internet for brides from her country. They exist! These can provide tremendous support from
women who have already made the transition. Pull out all the stops! Your future together depends on her successful adjustment to life in America.
Prepare your family and friends for her arrival. Help those closest to you understand the realities of your lady's relocation. Tell them she may
be a little shy at first because of her English level. If you have adult children you must settle any personal financial/inheritance/insurance issues
before she arrives to assure good relations. Be very sensitive that she may not feel she fits into your social circle right away. Stand by her side
when others are around, avoid putting her in awkward social situations and help others to get to know her. Once her true charm and personality come
out, they will all understand perfectly why you tried so hard to find her in the first place.
HOW DO I MEET ONLY WOMEN WHO SPEAK ENGLISH?
Ok, so once again I understand why you feel inclined to ask this question. You believe it will be impossible to forge a relationship with someone
who doesn't speak your language, right? One of the incredible ironies of this process is the responsibility foreign women feel, especially from
the FSU, to be able to communicate with us. It's really unbelievable that we men go to a woman's country with hopes of falling in love an finding
a soulmate while feeling no real need to learn HER language. More unbelievable is the fact that these women generally don't think less of us for
it. Say anything to these spectacular women in their native language and you'll get an immediate smile. They just love it. It shows you're willing
to go out on a limb and risk feeling dumb, just as they must feel as they try to speak to us.
Let me answer this question and then challenge the language paradigm again for you. You can meet English speaking women in cities like Moscow, St.
Petersburg, Kiev, Kharkov and Odessa. Generally in these cities, 30 - 40% of the women will speak some level of English. There haven't been alot
of American or English business ventures started in the FSU until recently. Keep in mind that the most attractive younger English speaking women
who register with IMA's in any city will be overly pursued, or at least will get lots of letters. In Latin America the percentage of women who can
speak English in places like Colombia and Peru is much lower but a few obviously can.
You will do yourself a huge favor in this process to include women who do not speak English. If you're going to search for a foreign bride or book
a romance tour so you can meet hundreds of ladies in order to find HER, then go and meet those hundreds of ladies! Don't limit yourself to the handful
who speak perfect English. There are some amazing women who don't speak English but will be happy to learn once you give them a very good reason
- like a lifetime of love and commitment!
ARE YOU SAYING THAT SOME FOREIGN WOMEN WILL MEET A NICE GUY, FALL IN LOVE AND WANT TO GET MARRIED BUT ARE EVENTUALLY UNWILLING TO LEAVE THEIR
COUNTRY, EVEN FOR A BETTER LIFE IN AMERICA?
Yes, that's exactly what I am saying. I have witnessed this dozens of times. The whole point I am making here is that when you DO meet a lovely
foreign lady who is willing to leave her country for yours - and life with you in it - don't take that for granted. You will need to understand
just how much of a sacrifice has been made on her part for the two of you to share life together. A true appreciation of this will be a good foundation
for your life-long relationship.
I am also emphasizing that this whole entire pursuit is not, for the vast majority of women who post profiles at IMA sites, an attempt to leave
their lives behind for citizenship in some other country. Their intentions are as sincere and legitimate as yours, their dreams of love are no less.